"[S]omething even more obscure to most Americans: the elite intellectuals of the LGBT movement have no intention of conforming to a social institution like marriage. Yes, they pursue the goal of enshrining same-sex “marriage” in law, but this is a half-way house to the real goal, which is to get beyond the old “power structures,” one of which is marriage. The late Paula Ettelbrick, a pioneer in the LGBT quest for legal recognition, was quite candid:
Being queer is more than setting up house, sleeping with a person of the same gender, and seeking state approval for doing so. It is an identity, a culture with many variations. It is a way of dealing with the world […] Being queer means pushing the parameters of sex, sexuality, and family, and in the process transforming the very fabric of society [….] We must keep our eyes on the goals of providing true alternatives to marriage and of radically reordering society’s view of family.
“Transforming the very fabric of society.” “Radically reordering society’s view of family.” These are the goals of academic “queer theory,” which has its roots in Continental postmodern philosophy, particularly the deconstructionism of French philosopher Michel Foucault. The entire point of queer theory, even according to Foucault himself, was to refuse to be “normalized” into existing sexual power structures like marriage. So while many LGBT intellectuals support same-sex “marriage,” they do so somewhat begrudgingly, keeping in mind that it is not at all the ultimate goal."